Debra Metelits

  • Three Reasons You CAN Go Home Again and One Reason Not To

    Three Reasons You CAN Go Home Again and One Reason Not To

    Thomas Wolfe’s famous 1940 novel argues that You Can’t Go Home Again. But I found some great reasons to go home again!   Reason One: Back to weather that your body remembers.        I was born in a small coal-mining town near Pittsburgh, but I have lived through thirty-four summers of the surreal heat…

  • Six Things I Learned on my Summer Vacation

    1. I whined and whined to my husband about my visceral need to see the ocean at least once this year. I usually remembered to include the vital data that because I am astrologically a Cancer, I could not  help but plead about this.  But I went northward to Flagstaff for one night (and saw no…

  • First Cataract Surgery Fini!

    First Cataract Surgery Fini!

      Even though I consider myself a baby when it comes to any medical procedure, the cataract surgery actually proved to be a benign experience. I was feeling quite well last week while I was pouring Perrier into my husband’s glass. With mild indifference, I watched a dark blur simultaneously spreading on the table around…

  • Pre-Cataract Surgery Part 2: Slight Confusion over Body Parts

    So, even though I know it’s “no big deal,” I admit I am getting nervous about my upcoming cataract surgery.  To help me feel more prepared,  my husband was helping me organize my eye drops into those used  before the surgery and those after it. He picked up a box with little single-use containers that read…

  • An Intimate Encounter

    An Intimate Encounter

           Looking deeply into my eyes, his face just a few inches away from mine, the handsome young doctor murmured, “Wow, you are the most beautiful, sexiest woman I have ever seen.”  Well, sort of.  I guess what he actually said was, “Wow, we can definitely do those multifocal lens for both your cataract surgeries…

  • “Sometimes It’s Easy, Sometimes It’s Not So Easy”

    Had a lovely time at the U of A-sponsored first Body Love Conference in Tucson, where I was privileged to be a speaker on my book Wise Older Woman and Transcending Ageism and Sexism. I don’t think I have ever been in a crowd of so many plus-sized women, period; and I have definitely not…

  • OMG I’m a MIL

    OMG I’m a MIL

         Or, from British comedian Les Dawson: “I haven’t spoken to my mother-in-law for two years. We haven’t quarrelled. I just don’t like to interrupt her!” Oy, this is not the mother-in-law I want to be! I think my new daughter-in-law is beautiful and sweet, and I already feel protective of her. But I worry…my…

  • First Invite!

    First Invite!

          A FIRST for me! In today’s mail, I got my FIRST invitation to sign up for cremation! What really tickled me was that the company boasted “when the time comes, we will come to you.” (Instead of me trudging through the traffic to them in my angel form, right?!) Just another adventure in…

  • Perfectly Aged

    When I started to describe to a friend how I had been doing, my feelings came pouring out: “Well,” I said, “there’s a base layer of low level anxiety and dread from old issues…and then there’s a medium layer of current emotional triggers… all tinged with a note of existential doubt”. As I talked, I…

  • Metamorphosis into Peace with Christmas

    Metamorphosis into Peace with Christmas

         I have a confession… I like the idea of Christmas.  I have become old enough and mellow enough and self-loving enough to admit it.  I’m not at all into comparing Christmas and Hanakah—Hanakah is a minor Jewish holiday, while Christmas is a major and defining Christian holiday.  I was never a victim of the…